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Personal/Projects/Dating/First Date Preparation.md

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 # First Date Preparation
 
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+## Date Reflections
+
+### Date 1 — December 2024
+
+**Overall**: Went well. We had fun, laughed, and talked about both light and serious topics. Decided mutually not to continue — not enough in common.
+
+**What went well**:
+- Conversation flowed naturally
+- Could discuss serious topics
+- Anxiety disappeared once we actually met — everything felt normal from that point on
+
+**What didn't work**:
+- Limited common ground. Even shared interests (running) came from opposite motivations — she ran for family half-marathon tradition but doesn't actually enjoy it or being alone with her thoughts. For me it's the opposite.
+- Little chemistry or spark
+
+**Lessons learned**:
+1. **Anxiety peaks before, not during** — the nervousness leading up to meeting her dissolved the moment we met. The anticipation is worse than the reality.
+2. **Shared activities ≠ shared values** — surface-level common interests don't guarantee compatibility if the underlying motivations differ
+3. **Chemistry needs active development** — can't rely on natural spark alone; something to work on
+
+**Action items for next dates**:
+- [ ] Prepare answers to predictable questions:
+  - "What are you looking for?" (in dating/relationship)
+  - Housing/living situation context
+- [ ] Be more proactive with communication before and after dates
+- [ ] Work on building chemistry/spark — don't just rely on conversation flow
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+### Upcoming: January 27, 2025
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+- [ ] Apply lessons from Date 1
+- [ ] Have prepared answers ready
+- [ ] Initiate more pre-date contact
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 ## Related Notes
 - [[Anxiety]] - Deep dive on dating anxiety and coping strategies
 - [[The Charisma Myth]] - Presence, warmth, and power

Personal/Projects/Running/Running.md

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 | 4    | 1.5 km @ WU <br>→ 4 × 1200 (400 RI) @ Z4 <br>→ 1.5 km CD           | 9.0 km  | 1.5 km @ WU <br>→ 5 km @ Z4 <br>→ 1.5 km CD                                               | 8 km    | 16 km @ Z3         | 33.0 km    |
 | 3    | 1.5 km @ WU <br>→ 5 × 1000 (400 RI) @ Z4 <br>→ 1.5 km CD           | 9.6 km  | 1.5 km @ WU <br>→ 10 km @ Z3 <br>→ 1.5 km CD                                              | 13 km   | 13 km @ Z3         | 35.6 km    |
 | 2    | 1.5 km @ WU <br>→ 3 × 1600 (400 RI) @ Z4 <br>→ 1.5 km CD           | 8.6 km  | 1.5 km @ WU <br>→ 5 km @ Z4 <br>→ 1.5 km CD                                               | 8 km    | 11 km @ Z3         | 27.6 km    |
-| 1    | 1.5 km @ WU → 6 × 400 (400 RI) @ Z5 → 1.5 km CD                    | 7.4 km  | No warm-up / cooldown                                                                     | -       | 10 km Race — Z4-Z5 | 17.4 km    |
+| 1    | 1.5 km @ WU → 6 × 400 (400 RI) @ Z5 → 1.5 km CD                    | 7.4 km  | No warm-up / cooldown 5 km                                                                | -       | 10 km Race — Z4-Z5 | 17.4 km    |
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