From 237e63301706882977c1ded6cde39989aaf8c780 Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: Vincent Verbruggen Date: Wed, 24 Dec 2025 12:38:22 +0100 Subject: [PATCH] vault backup: 2025-12-24 12:38:22 --- .../Projects/Dating/First Date Preparation.md | 39 ++++++++++++++++++- Personal/Projects/Running/Running.md | 3 +- 2 files changed, 40 insertions(+), 2 deletions(-) diff --git a/Personal/Projects/Dating/First Date Preparation.md b/Personal/Projects/Dating/First Date Preparation.md index b172fe6..4139785 100644 --- a/Personal/Projects/Dating/First Date Preparation.md +++ b/Personal/Projects/Dating/First Date Preparation.md @@ -1,6 +1,6 @@ --- created: 2025-12-02 -updated: 2025-12-02 +updated: 2025-12-24 --- # First Date Preparation @@ -152,6 +152,43 @@ Instead of jumping to a new question, dig deeper into what they share: --- +## Date Reflections + +### Date 1 — December 2024 + +**Overall**: Went well. We had fun, laughed, and talked about both light and serious topics. Decided mutually not to continue — not enough in common. + +**What went well**: +- Conversation flowed naturally +- Could discuss serious topics +- Anxiety disappeared once we actually met — everything felt normal from that point on + +**What didn't work**: +- Limited common ground. Even shared interests (running) came from opposite motivations — she ran for family half-marathon tradition but doesn't actually enjoy it or being alone with her thoughts. For me it's the opposite. +- Little chemistry or spark + +**Lessons learned**: +1. **Anxiety peaks before, not during** — the nervousness leading up to meeting her dissolved the moment we met. The anticipation is worse than the reality. +2. **Shared activities ≠ shared values** — surface-level common interests don't guarantee compatibility if the underlying motivations differ +3. **Chemistry needs active development** — can't rely on natural spark alone; something to work on + +**Action items for next dates**: +- [ ] Prepare answers to predictable questions: + - "What are you looking for?" (in dating/relationship) + - Housing/living situation context +- [ ] Be more proactive with communication before and after dates +- [ ] Work on building chemistry/spark — don't just rely on conversation flow + +--- + +### Upcoming: January 27, 2025 + +- [ ] Apply lessons from Date 1 +- [ ] Have prepared answers ready +- [ ] Initiate more pre-date contact + +--- + ## Related Notes - [[Anxiety]] - Deep dive on dating anxiety and coping strategies - [[The Charisma Myth]] - Presence, warmth, and power diff --git a/Personal/Projects/Running/Running.md b/Personal/Projects/Running/Running.md index f1c2ab9..d4db405 100644 --- a/Personal/Projects/Running/Running.md +++ b/Personal/Projects/Running/Running.md @@ -21,7 +21,8 @@ Race Date: March 29, 2025 | 4 | 1.5 km @ WU
→ 4 × 1200 (400 RI) @ Z4
→ 1.5 km CD | 9.0 km | 1.5 km @ WU
→ 5 km @ Z4
→ 1.5 km CD | 8 km | 16 km @ Z3 | 33.0 km | | 3 | 1.5 km @ WU
→ 5 × 1000 (400 RI) @ Z4
→ 1.5 km CD | 9.6 km | 1.5 km @ WU
→ 10 km @ Z3
→ 1.5 km CD | 13 km | 13 km @ Z3 | 35.6 km | | 2 | 1.5 km @ WU
→ 3 × 1600 (400 RI) @ Z4
→ 1.5 km CD | 8.6 km | 1.5 km @ WU
→ 5 km @ Z4
→ 1.5 km CD | 8 km | 11 km @ Z3 | 27.6 km | -| 1 | 1.5 km @ WU → 6 × 400 (400 RI) @ Z5 → 1.5 km CD | 7.4 km | No warm-up / cooldown | - | 10 km Race — Z4-Z5 | 17.4 km | +| 1 | 1.5 km @ WU → 6 × 400 (400 RI) @ Z5 → 1.5 km CD | 7.4 km | No warm-up / cooldown 5 km | - | 10 km Race — Z4-Z5 | 17.4 km | +| | | | | | | | ### Additional Filler Weeks (Use as needed)