--- created: 2025-10-23 --- # Your Best Hinge Prompts (Personalized) Based on your interview, here are the prompts that will work best for YOU and help attract the right person. ## Recommended 3-Prompt Combination ### Option A: Clear + Witty + Active 1. **"I want someone who"** (Tier 1 - Partner preferences) 2. **"I'm convinced that"** (Tier 2 - Conversation starter with wit) 3. **"First round is on me if"** (Tier 3 - Playful compatibility filter) ### Option B: Direct + Intellectual + Fun 1. **"Green flags I look for"** (Tier 1 - Values + preferences) 2. **"I won't shut up about"** (Tier 2 - Shows passion) 3. **"I know the best spot in town for"** (Tier 3 - Date idea) ### Option C: Compatible + Unique + Forward 1. **"Let's make sure we're on the same page about"** (Tier 1 - Filters early) 2. **"A shower thought I recently had"** (Tier 2 - Original/witty) 3. **"I'll fall for you if"** (Tier 3 - Shows what you value) --- ## Draft Answers (Based on What You Want) ### "I want someone who" **Draft 1 (Direct about independence):** "...has her own life and doesn't need to do everything together. We should be two independent people who choose to build something, not two halves trying to make a whole." **Draft 2 (Humor focus):** "...gets my jokes without explanation. What's the point otherwise? Also: can ski, won't try to fix all my problems, and thinks traditional gender roles are bullshit." **Draft 3 (Values-focused):** "...challenges my thinking but stays intellectually honest. Progressive, direct communicator, independent. Bonus points if you bring spontaneity to my very routine life." --- ### "Green flags I look for" **Draft 1 (Sharp mind focus):** "That instant 'knowing look' when we get each other without words. Sharp wit, direct communication, and the ability to debate without getting dogmatic. Also: takes care of herself and can handle a ski trip." **Draft 2 (Equals mentality):** "Someone with their own passions and friend group who doesn't need me to take charge or play princess. We're equals or we're nothing. Also critical: shared sense of humor and progressive values." **Draft 3 (Balanced):** "Intellectual curiosity, direct communication, and that rare combo of depth and humor. Someone who's comfortable being independent but also knows when to be there. No drama, no games." --- ### "Let's make sure we're on the same page about" **Draft 1 (No kids - direct):** "No kids. Also: progressive politics, we're equals in this relationship, and occasional psychedelics > any smoking ever." **Draft 2 (Softer but clear):** "Building independent lives together rather than codependent ones. Also: childfree, progressive values, and direct communication > playing games." **Draft 3 (Comprehensive):** "Being partners not caretakers, no kids, progressive mindsets, and that skiing trips are non-negotiable. Oh, and shared humor isn't optional - it's essential." --- ### "I'm convinced that" **Draft 1 (Humor about independence):** "...the best relationships are between two people who don't *need* each other but actively *choose* each other. Also convinced most people ski wrong." **Draft 2 (Intellectual):** "...intellectual honesty is sexier than intelligence. You can be brilliant but dogmatic and we won't work. Sharp + open-minded > just smart." **Draft 3 (Playful):** "...routine gets a bad rap. Give me someone who brings spontaneity to my structured life and I'll show you adventure with a breakfast schedule." --- ### "First round is on me if" **Draft 1 (Humor compatibility test):** "...you can keep up with my dry humor without asking 'wait, are you serious?' Also if you think traditional dating rules are as outdated as I do." **Draft 2 (Shared interests):** "...you can tell me about something you geek out on for 20 minutes without apologizing. Bonus points if it's something I've never heard of and you can ski." **Draft 3 (Values filter):** "...you think 'childfree by choice' and 'occasionally exploring consciousness' are green flags not red ones. Progressive minds only." --- ### "I won't shut up about" **Draft 1 (Multi-interest):** "The books I'm reading, why most people's workout routines make no sense, and which ski resorts are actually worth it. Fair warning: I get passionate." **Draft 2 (Specific passion):** "Whatever I'm currently obsessed with - could be a podcast series, training methodology, or why some common belief is completely wrong. I geek out hard." **Draft 3 (Meta/witty):** "The fact that we both need independent lives to make this work. Also: the perfect espresso, strength training progressions, and obscure film photography techniques." --- ### "I know the best spot in town for" **Draft 1 (Active lifestyle):** "A proper workout that doesn't involve boutique fitness nonsense. Also: coffee that's actually good and conversations that go deeper than small talk." **Draft 2 (Dutch-specific if applicable):** "[Insert actual favorite spot] - but only sharing if you promise not to need constant plans. Sometimes the best nights are the spontaneous ones." **Draft 3 (Playful):** "Deep conversations over good coffee. Or mediocre coffee. Honestly the conversation matters more, but why settle?" --- ### "A shower thought I recently had" **Draft 1 (Relationships):** "People say 'opposites attract' but really it's 'independently whole people who complement each other attract.' Needing someone is a red flag, choosing them is the point." **Draft 2 (Witty observation):** "Most people confuse being busy with being productive, and confuse codependency with love. Related thoughts." **Draft 3 (Original take):** "The best relationships are two people with full lives who make space for each other, not two people filling each other's gaps. Also: why do ski resorts keep [specific pet peeve]?" --- ### "I'll fall for you if" **Draft 1 (Comprehensive):** "...we can challenge each other's thinking without it becoming a thing, your idea of fun includes both deep conversations and spontaneous adventures, and that 'knowing look' just clicks." **Draft 2 (Humor-focused):** "...our humor syncs up instantly, you have your own life and passions, and you think 'I need space' is a sign of health not a problem. Bonus: can ski." **Draft 3 (Direct):** "...you're sharp, direct, progressive, and treat partnership as equals not roles. Also if you bring spontaneity to my routine-heavy life while respecting that I actually like structure." --- ## Why These Work For You **They filter for:** - ✅ Progressive, childfree values - ✅ Independence and equality - ✅ Sharp mind and shared humor - ✅ Direct communication style - ✅ Active lifestyle compatibility - ✅ No traditional gender roles - ✅ Intellectual curiosity **They communicate:** - 🎯 You know what you want - 🎯 You value depth + wit - 🎯 You're looking for equals not dependents - 🎯 You have your life together - 🎯 You're direct and authentic **They repel:** - ❌ People who want kids - ❌ Drama seekers - ❌ Traditional gender role believers - ❌ Codependent types - ❌ Conservative values - ❌ People who can't handle direct communication --- ## Next Steps 1. Pick one of the 3-prompt combinations (A, B, or C) 2. Choose which draft answer resonates most for each prompt (or mix elements) 3. Personalize with your actual voice and specific details 4. Test and iterate based on who matches with you Remember: The research shows originality + values + partner preferences = success. These prompts nail all three.