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created: 2025-10-23
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# Recommended Hinge Prompts (Research-Backed)

Based on analysis of effectiveness research, these prompts are categorized by their ability to show originality, values/goals, and partner preferences.

## Tier 1: Best Overall
**Shows values/goals + partner preferences**

1. **I want someone who** - Clearly states partner preferences (proven most effective)
2. **A life goal of mine** - Shows purpose and values
3. **Green flags I look for** - Partner preferences + values combined
4. **I'm looking for** - Direct about relationship expectations
5. **I'll fall for you if** - Combines partner preferences with personality
6. **Let's make sure we're on the same page about** - Clarifies compatibility upfront

## Tier 2: Strong Conversation Starters
**Originality + engagement**

7. **A shower thought I recently had** - Shows unique thinking, very original
8. **I recently discovered that** - Fresh, unique, conversation starter
9. **I'm convinced that** - Shows personality + invites debate
10. **Change my mind about** - Interactive, invites response
11. **Let's debate this topic** - Direct conversation invitation
12. **I won't shut up about** - Shows passion, very engaging

## Tier 3: Personality + Substance Balance
**Humor + depth**

13. **I geek out on** - Shows passion and depth
14. **My simple pleasures** - Reveals values through everyday moments
15. **I know the best spot in town for** - Local knowledge + date idea
16. **First round is on me if** - Playful + filters compatibility
17. **I'll brag about you to my friends if** - Shows what you value in a partner

## Recommended Profile Strategy

Choose **3 prompts total**:

1. **One from Tier 1** - Shows what you're looking for (compatibility filter)
2. **One from Tier 2** - Shows originality and personality (engagement)
3. **One from Tier 3** - Balances humor and substance (memorability)

### Example Combinations

**Combo A: Serious + Thoughtful + Fun**
- I want someone who
- A shower thought I recently had
- My simple pleasures

**Combo B: Clear + Passionate + Playful**
- Green flags I look for
- I won't shut up about
- First round is on me if

**Combo C: Compatible + Unique + Local**
- Let's make sure we're on the same page about
- I recently discovered that
- I know the best spot in town for

## Prompts to Avoid

### Too Generic/Cliché
- Never have I ever
- My biggest date fail
- Biggest risk I've taken

### Pure Self-Promotion (No Partner Preference)
- Proof I have musical talent
- My best celebrity impression
- Saying "Hi!" in as many languages I know

### Just Fun Facts (Low Substance)
- How to pronounce my name
- My best Dad Joke
- A random fact I love is

### Potentially Negative Framing
- Don't hate me if I
- My cry-in-the-car song is
- My therapist would say I
- My most irrational fear

## Why This Works

According to the research cited in your notes:

1. **Originality matters** - Unique, authentic responses stand out
2. **Values/goals attract** - Showing purpose and direction is compelling
3. **Partner preferences filter** - Being clear about what you want saves time
4. **Balance is key** - Mix personality (humor) with substance (values)
5. **Conversation hooks** - Prompts that invite responses get more engagement