INDEX
- academic and scientific research, 5–6
- burnout, 21, 22, 23–24
- charitable giving, 74–75, 76, 77
- communications, 107, 109–110, 120, 121–122, 126–127, 149–150, 152
- discourse conformity and effects, 132–133
- earnings and happiness, 79–82
- economics, 34
- emotional and professional boundaries, 36, 213–214
- failure and recovery, 11–13, 211
- financial contingency of self-worth, 54–55
- friends, 164–165
- health and happiness, 140–145, 179–183, 217–219
- intelligence and well-being, 206
- intuition and decision making, 68–69
- job changes, 62–63
- midlife crises, 85, 88
- motivation and achievement, 92, 188, 219
- neuroscience, 102, 133, 168, 170
- parenting, 155–157
- procrastination, 27–29, 30, 31–32, 93–94
- promotion effects, 212–213
- psychology, 34, 109, 121–122, 126–127, 149–150, 194–195
- self-control, 48–49, 50–51
- speaking truths, vs. fear, 131, 132–133
- time management, 18–19
- worry, 40–42
- achievement and success. See success
- adaptability, 63
- addictions, 17, 19, 31, 34, 220
- aesthetics, 142
- age issues
- middle age, 86–89
- midlife crises, 85–89
- sandwiching, 86–87
- worry levels, 41–42
- “age of authenticity” theory, 47–48, 49, 50
- agreeableness, 88, 157, 181
- agreement in beliefs, 151–152
- anonymous giving, 73–77
- antisocial behavior, 49, 50–51, 200
- antisocial personality disorder, 133
- anxiety
- chronic worry as, 39–42, 54
- dealing with, 42–45, 54, 181
- financial worry, 39, 53–57
- time wasting and information overload, 15–17, 30–31, 44, 94, 96
- Aristotle, 52, 74, 161
- arrival fallacy, 95–96
- art and nature appreciation, 142, 145, 181
- authoritarianism, 131
- avoidance
- procrastination, 27–32
- task cancellation and delegation, 32, 115
- worry, 40–41
- backhanded praise, 109–110, 111
- beauty, 142
- behavioral activation, inhibition systems, 48
- betrayal, 162–163, 165
- boomerang effect, 150, 151
- brain chemistry and activity
- altruism, 181
- amygdala activity, 200–201
- criticism processing, 102
- intelligence and well-being, 206
- perception and first impressions, 167–169
- reward systems, 17, 189, 194
- self-management, 48
- social rejection, 132, 133, 175
- speech and language, 126, 127
- stress and burnout, 22
- survival, and resource gathering, 80, 81, 215–216
- videoconferencing and virtual interaction, 120–121
- worrying, 40–41, 133–134
- breakups, 175–177, 178
- The Brothers Karamazov (Dostoevsky), 21
- Buddhism, 189
- bullying, 162–163
- burnout, 21–26
- causes, 21–22, 23, 24
- fixing, 24–26
- saying “no” in overwhelm, 33–38
- symptoms, 22–23
- career building
- changing jobs, 61–65, 203–204, 211
- happiness outcomes, 4, 211–212, 217–218
- material focus mistakes, 2, 4, 79–81
- Carnegie, Dale, 54, 96
- catastrophizing, 10, 202–203
- changing jobs
- evaluation tools, 70–71
- fear and risk, 68, 69, 71, 72, 203–204
- management regrets, 211–216
- positive methods, 61–65, 67–68, 167, 203–204
- statistics, 61, 62, 65, 67
- using intuition, 67–72
- charitable giving, 56, 73–77, 82, 181
- children
- criticism effects, 103–104
- development, 156–157, 158
- parenting, 155–160
- Christian theology, 147–148, 153
- communications
- biases and division effects, 148, 149–151, 152–153
- body language, 120, 168, 169–170
- compliments, 107–112
- criticism, 101–106, 107–108
- cursing, 125–129
- listening, 152
- meetings, 114, 116–117, 119–123
- saying “no” in overwhelm, 33–38
- sharing opinions and beliefs, 148–153, 183
- skills, and happiness, 206–207
- speaking truth despite fear, 134–136
- videoconferencing, 119–123
- See also personal relationships
- competitiveness, 102–103, 126, 162
- compliments, giving, 107–112
- conformity, 131–133, 136
- connections, human. See family; personal relationships; social connection
- continuous improvement
- failure as positive force, 12
- progress principles, 5, 95–96, 140, 188, 190–191
- control issues
- job change factors, 63, 64–65
- job responsibilities, 24, 213
- self-control, 47–52
- worrying, 41, 44
- coronavirus pandemic (2020–)
- money-related worry, 53
- videoconferencing, 119–123
- work life and burnout, 21–22, 23, 25
- courage
- dangerous experiences, 199–204
- moral, and speaking truth, 112, 132–136, 202
- personal challenges, 201–204
- covert narcissists, 103
- creativity
- positive habits for, 31
- procrastination and, 16, 27, 29, 30–31, 93–94
- virtual interaction’s harms, 121–122
- criticism, giving and taking, 101–106, 107–108
- crystallized intelligence, 87
- cursing, 125–129
- danger
- vs. dread, 69–70
- novel experience seeking, 199–204
- Danish culture, 179
- “deadness”
- job factors and decisions, 68, 70, 71, 72
- social media effects, 19, 94
- declining tasks
- delegating and cutting, 32, 82
- just saying “no,” 33–38
- denial, 176
- Diessner, Rhett, 112
- digital addiction, 17, 19, 31
- discounting, 34–35, 37
- disinhibition and inhibition, 47–52
- dopamine
- altruism, 181
- memory processing, 41
- novel experiences, 31, 34, 37, 69
- rewards and addiction, 17, 19, 189
- Dostoevsky, Fyodor, 21, 39
- dread, 69–70
- Dunning-Kruger effect, 205
- earned success, 143, 220
- See also success
- earnings
- career-building goals, 2, 4, 79–81
- hourly wage valuation, 18–19
- job satisfaction assumptions and links, 218
- money “buying happiness” concept, 2, 55–57, 79–83, 143
- economic stratification, 53
- Edison, Thomas, 13–14
- emotional boundaries, 35–36, 37–38, 213–215
- emotional labor
- burnout, 23
- romantic relationships, 174–178
- sharing beliefs and values, 148–153, 207–208
- emotional management
- body language, 170
- bravery and courage, 200, 202
- criticism issues, 101–106
- cursing, 126–128, 129
- in decision making, 68–69
- happiness seeking, 139–145, 182–183
- happiness through giving, 73–74, 76–77
- happiness through standard of living, 80–81, 140–141
- job searches and changes, 61–62, 63, 64, 68, 167, 212–215
- memories, 195–196, 197–198
- procrastination, 27–28, 29–32, 93–94
- risk and danger seeking, 200–204
- employment and unemployment, 142–143
- See also work-life balance; and specific job entries
- Erikson, Erik, 87
- excitement
- job decisions, 67, 68, 69, 71, 72
- novel experiences and danger, 34, 35, 69, 199–204
- exhibitionism, 47–48
- exposure therapy, 11–12, 43
- failure
- importance of, 11–12, 13–14, 174
- learning and recovery, 9, 11–14, 174, 175–177, 178
- professional errors, 10, 211–212, 214
- success from or despite, 9–14, 173–174
- See also success
- family
- caregiving, 86–87, 155–160
- health and happiness factors, 141, 145, 180
- fear
- being single, 178
- body language, 170
- courage for personal challenges, 201–204
- job decisions, 68, 69, 71, 72, 203–204
- of missing out, 34–35, 37
- opinions sharing and influence, 148, 150
- ostracism and rejection, 132–136
- speaking truth without fear, 131–136
- the unknown, 61–62
- feedback
- giving and receiving criticism, 102, 103–106, 107–108
- motivation links, 104, 105
- positive, via compliments, 107
- feelings. See emotional boundaries; emotional labor; emotional management
- financial contingency of self-worth, 54–56
- first impressions, 167–171
- Franklin, Benjamin, 50
- freedom of speech, 131–132
- Freudenberger, Herbert, 21
- friends
- frenemies, 161–166
- making, 147–153
- true and real, and happiness, 54, 82, 141, 161, 164–165, 180
- gender and sex differences
- compliment-giving, 108
- cursing, 125
- first impressions, 170
- friends and frenemies, 163
- perception and trust, 168
- generations
- money worries and differences, 53
- sandwiching, 86–87
- generativity vs. stagnation, 87
- genetics
- parent-child, and nature vs. nurture, 156–157, 158
- worrying, 41
- giving
- charitable, 56, 73–77, 82, 181
- criticism, 101–106
- ideas, 207–208, 209
- goal setting
- attainment letdowns, 188–189, 190
- goal achievement methods, 44, 91–97, 188, 190–191
- ideals’ importance, 13, 191
- planning for “success,” 5, 12, 188, 189–191, 203, 217
- and practicing, 135, 203
- procrastination avoidance methods, 32
- Grant, Adam, 28
- health issues. See mental health issues; physical activity; physical ailments
- Hemingway, Ernest, 199, 201, 205
- Hooke, Robert, 106
- human psychological needs
- ego protection, 176
- safety, 61, 81
- self-actualization and self-efficacy, 54, 56, 87, 188
- social inclusion, 122, 132, 133, 180
- “A Hunger Artist” (Kafka), 221–222
- hyperbolic discounting, 34–35
- ideals and values. See values
- individualism in society, 47–48
- influence, personal, 51, 147–153, 159, 183
- inhibition and disinhibition, 47–52
- insult comedy, 208
- intelligence, 205–209
- intrinsic motivation
- achievement theory, 92–97
- goal progress, 188, 190
- ideals within, 13, 26, 51–52
- novel experiences, 34, 35
- procrastination avoidance, 31–32, 94
- work happiness vs. burnout, 23–24
- intrinsic values, 13, 26, 51–52, 191, 197, 207
- intuition
- first impressions, 168–170
- interviewing others, 171
- in the job search, 67–72
- Jaques, Elliott, 85
- Jesus Christ, 147–148
- job interviews, 67, 167, 169–171
- job satisfaction
- “best companies,” 217–218
- changing jobs, 62, 67–68, 203–204
- management and leadership caveats, 211–216
- meetings’ failings, 113
- raises and earnings, 218
- job searches
- advice, 167, 170–171
- changing jobs and job satisfaction, 61–65, 203–204, 211–216
- evaluation tools, 70–71
- intuition in, 67–72
- judgment and perception, human, 67–72, 167–169
- Jung, Carl, 139–145
- leading by example, 159
- Levinson, Daniel J., 86
- Lin, Xiaodong D., 11–13
- listening, 152
- loneliness, 17, 55, 70, 213–214
- love
- friends, 141, 164–165, 166
- marriage and family, 141, 145, 179
- parenting, 158–159
- romantic, and challenges, 9–10, 11, 173–174, 174–178
- sharing values, 147–148, 151, 153, 207
- speaking truth in, 135–136
- Maimonides, 74
- making friends, 147–153
- management
- fostering happiness over burnout, 23, 24
- personal life, and happiness, 1–2, 3–6, 63, 64
- professional life, and happiness, 62, 211–216
- manipulation, 45, 161, 163
- marriage, 141, 145, 179
- Maslow, Abraham, 54, 56
- meetings
- fatigue and burnout, 23, 24, 120, 121–122
- improved approaches, 115–117, 122
- negative realities, 113–117
- videoconferencing, 119–123
- memories, 195–196
- mental health issues
- burnout and overwhelm, 33–38, 122
- dealing with, 42–45, 54
- depression, 42, 54, 64, 121, 133, 189
- dissatisfaction despite money, 82
- dopamine and addiction, 17, 19, 31, 34, 189
- failure and responses, 9, 10–11, 11–12
- happiness and well-being, 140–141, 142–143, 180, 181, 220–221
- individual vs. collective orientation, 48
- integrity in time use, 15–17, 19–20, 30–31, 94, 96
- midlife crises, 85–89
- personality disorders, 103, 133
- and spirituality, 144
- stressful jobs, 23, 212–213
- stressful relationships, 164
- virtual interaction outcomes, 121–122
- worrying, 39–45, 53–57, 133–134
- metacognitive techniques, 43
- middle age, 86–89
- midlife crises, 85–89
- mindfulness
- cursing, 125–129
- focusing on the present, 93–96, 197
- procrastination techniques, 30, 93–94
- money. See earnings; resources, material
- moral beauty, 112
- moral courage, 132–136, 202
- motivation. See intrinsic motivation; motivation from feedback; productivity; protection motivation theory
- motivation from feedback, 104, 105
- narcissists, 103
- nature and art appreciation, 142, 145, 181
- nature vs. nurture, 156–157
- needs. See human psychological needs; resources, material
- Newport, Cal, 18
- Newton, Isaac, 105–106
- “no,” saying, 33–38
- nostalgia, 195–196
- novel experiences
- danger and courage, 199–204
- motivation, 34, 35, 69
- Obama, Barack, 151–152
- opportunity costs, time spent, 16–17, 18–19
- opt-out vs. opt-in mechanisms, 36–37
- ostracism, 132–134
- overt narcissists, 103
- “Ozymandias” (Shelley), 193–194, 198
- parenting, 86, 155–160
- peer pressure. See social and peer pressure
- perception and judgment, human, 67–72, 167–169
- personal challenges
- dealing with criticism, 101–106, 107
- dealing with failure, 9–14
- relationship struggles, 9–10, 173–178
- speaking truth without fear, 131–136
- personal relationships
- caregiving and parenting, 86–87, 155–160
- dealing with failure in, 9–10, 11, 173–178
- emotional labor and sharing, 23, 148–153, 209
- first impressions, 167–171
- frenemies, 161–166
- giving and receiving criticism, 101–106, 107–108
- giving compliments, 107–112
- in-person importance, 120–121, 122, 181
- maintenance and success, 4–5, 82, 107, 141, 145, 164–165, 166, 180
- manipulation, 45, 161, 163
- real friends, 141, 161, 164–165
- sharing beliefs and values, 148–153, 207–208
- See also communications; social connection
- personal values. See values
- personalities
- agreeableness and happiness, 88, 157, 181
- child development, 156–157, 158
- perceptions and impressions, 167–171
- personality disorders, 103, 133
- philanthropy, 56, 73–77, 82, 181, 207–208, 209
- philosophy
- achievement and rewards, 2, 92, 93
- exhibitionism, 47
- friendship, 161
- reality, 123
- spiritual and religious, 74, 143–144, 145, 147–148, 153
- worry, 42
- physical activity
- creativity boosters, 31
- healthy outcomes, 140–141, 180, 181
- physical ailments
- burnout-related, 22–23
- worry and anxiety-related, 41, 54
- political discourse, 148, 149, 150–153
- poverty, 53, 55, 80
- practicing, 135
- pre-crastination, 28–29
- procrastination, 16, 27–32, 93–94
- See also wasting time
- productivity
- happiness effects, 219
- meetings’ failings, 113–115, 116
- wasting time and activity, 15–20, 30–31, 94
- See also declining tasks
- profanity, 125–129
- prospection, 95–96
- protection motivation theory, 149–150
- psychological needs. See human psychological needs
- Pychyl, Timothy, 27–28
- reality, 42, 92, 123
- reciprocity, 111
- recklessness, 200–201
- regret, 9, 16, 35
- religion and spirituality
- attachment and suffering, 2, 189
- health and happiness factors, 143–144, 145, 153, 180
- parental influence, 157
- remote and hybrid workers
- communication issues, 4
- videoconferencing, 119–123
- work life and burnout, 25, 181
- remote schooling, 121–122
- research. See academic and scientific research
- resilience, 12, 143–144
- resources, material
- money “buying happiness” concept, 2, 55–57, 79–83, 143, 182
- money worries, significance, 53–57
- survival vs. happiness, 2–3, 54, 55, 56–57, 80, 81, 142–143, 207, 215–216
- restraint, 47–52
- reviews, 101
- risk and reward
- business entrepreneurs, 1–2, 173–175, 177
- fear of future regret, 35
- job changes: excitement, fear, and deadness, 69–72
- personal risk-taking, 200–201, 202–204
- rewards quality and happiness, 2–3
- romance, 173–175, 177–178
- Rogers, Ronald W., 149–150
- romance challenges, 173–174, 174–178
- Romney, Mitt, 151–152
- running of the bulls (Pamplona, Spain), 199–200, 201
- sarcasm, 208
- scheduling
- downtime, 18, 96
- fostering work-life balance, 24–25
- time blocking, 18, 25, 26, 31, 96
- Schopenhauer, Arthur, 92–97
- scientific research. See academic and scientific research
- self-actualization, 54, 56, 87–88, 141–145, 220–221
- self-awareness
- authentic self-improvement, 51–52
- criticism processing, 104
- goals and accomplishments, 95–97
- honest and courageous communication, 134–135, 136
- procrastination, 29, 94
- videoconferencing, 120
- self-control, 47–52
- self-determination theory, 47
- self-esteem and identity
- acknowledging accomplishments, 182, 193, 198
- charitable giving, 56, 74–75, 76
- compliment processing, 109–110
- criticism processing, 102–103, 103–104
- financial worth ties, 54–56
- group inclusion, 132
- intrinsic values, 13, 26, 51–52, 191, 197, 207
- meaningful work, 188, 220–221
- midlife crises, 85–89
- service to others, 56, 73–77, 143, 145, 220–221
- Sheehy, Gail, 85
- smart people, 205–209
- smartphone use
- anxiety source, 44, 94
- fostering work-life balance, 24–25
- time wasting and procrastination, 15–16, 17, 19, 30–31
- smiling, 170
- social and peer pressure
- evolution and survival, 131–132, 168
- oversharing vs. restraint, 47, 49–52
- saying “no,” 36
- social comparison, 56
- social connection
- group behavior, 132–133, 148–149
- human needs, 54, 55, 121, 122, 132, 133, 175, 180
- sharing beliefs and values, 148–153, 207–208
- videoconferencing aspects, 120–122
- See also personal relationships
- social media
- cursing, 125, 128–129
- information overload and anxiety, 44, 94, 96
- oversharing vs. restraint, 47, 50, 51
- reviews and criticisms on, 101
- sharing opinions and beliefs, 149–150, 152–153
- social power and influence, 51, 147–153, 159, 183
- speech, freedom of, 131–132
- stagnation, 87
- stoicism, 144
- substance use and abuse, 140, 157–158, 200, 201
- success
- acknowledgment and pride, 182, 193–194, 218–219
- anticlimactic effects, 187–188, 188–189, 190, 215, 219
- failure interconnectedness, 9–14, 173–174
- happiness and steps to achievement, 91–97, 140–145, 179–183, 190–191, 217–222
- healthy aging realizations, 87–88
- overfocus on, 12, 187–188, 190
- self-defining, 5, 219
- worrying and performance, 42, 155, 187, 190
- superstition, 41, 43–44
- taking criticism, 101–106
- Taylor, Charles, 47–48
- technological tools
- organization and productivity, 33, 36–37
- philosophy of human reality and, 123
- videoconferencing, 119–123
- television watching, 15–16
- Tertullian, 147, 153
- Thoreau, Henry David, 15, 19
- time
- blocking, 18, 25, 26, 31, 96
- meetings data, 113, 114
- Parkinson’s law, 116
- wise use vs. wasting, 15–20, 29, 30–31, 94
- See also procrastination; scheduling; work-life balance
- totalitarianism, 131
- transcendence, 144, 145, 180
- trophies, 193–198
- Trueman, Carl R., 47–48
- truth
- inauthentic social strategies, 163–164, 165
- parent-child relations, 159
- speaking without fear, 131–136
- twin studies, 156–157
- values
- alignment with time and activities, 15–20, 26, 197
- moral beauty compliments, 112
- moral identity and giving, 74–75, 76, 181
- parental guidance, 155–160
- personal values’ importance, 13, 26, 51–52, 191, 197, 207
- personal values sharing/influence, 148, 149–153, 183, 207–208
- time and money valuation, 18–19
- See also self-esteem and identity: intrinsic values
- videoconferencing, 119–123
- virtual interaction. See social media; videoconferencing
- virtual schooling, 121–122
- virtue, 74, 133, 159
- vocabulary skills, 206
- volunteerism and service, 56, 75–77, 143
- Walden (Thoreau), 15, 19, 20
- wasting time, 15–20, 30–31, 94, 96
- See also meetings; procrastination
- wealth. See earnings; resources, material
- Wethington, Elaine, 88
- Winfrey, Oprah, 140
- work friendships, 148–149, 162, 163, 181
- work-life balance
- avoiding overwork, 56, 182, 220, 221–222
- “best companies,” 217–218
- life-job separation methods, 24–25, 56
- maintenance and success, 4–5, 63, 64, 143, 220
- saying “no” for balance, 33–38
- work-life integration, 4–5, 143, 188
- worrier/warrior gene, 41
- worrying, 39–45, 133–134
- dealing with, 40, 42–45, 54
- money-related, 39, 53–57
- ostracism, 133–134
- parenting-related, 155–160