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+What do I want?
+Becoming the person woman would want?
+
+Be more present.
+
+Ideas for bio
+Add current plan/passion/goal
+
+Add a call to action 
+
+Kan eindeloos in bad zitten. 
+
+Verder ontspan door rondjes te rennen, zware dingen te tillen. Momenteel licht geobsedeerd door Nothing but thieves.
+
+Opening:
+were short personalised messages addressing a trait in their profile; rhymed with their screen name or headline message; and extended genuine compliments
+
+<https://ebm.bmj.com/content/20/2/48>

Personal/Projects/Dating/Breeze/Breeze.md

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+# Breeze
+
+
+## About Breeze
+
+Breeze is a Dutch dating app founded in 2020 by former TU Delft students. Unlike traditional dating apps, Breeze doesn't have a chat function - instead, users schedule dates directly after matching. The app curates matches twice daily (7am and 7pm), focusing on quality over quantity.
+
+## Key Features
+
+- No chatting before the date (chat unlocks 1 hour before scheduled date)
+- Direct date scheduling via date picker
+- Curated matches twice daily
+- Focus on getting users to meet in real life quickly
+- Dutch-focused with multi-language support
+
+## Profile Setup
+
+When creating a Breeze profile, users provide:
+- Basic info (name, age, gender, location)
+- Dating preferences and intentions
+- Languages spoken
+- Education level
+- Employment information
+- Hobbies and interests (select 5-10 tags from tag cloud)
+- Photos (minimum 2 required)
+- Personal bio
+- At least one Q&A prompt answer
+
+## Q&A Prompts List
+
+Here are the confirmed prompts available in Breeze (with Dutch translations where applicable):
+
+### Confirmed Prompts
+
+1. **"Worst idea I've ever had"** / **"Slechtste idee dat ik ooit had"**
+   - Example: "Making a fool of myself by using a dating app"
+
+2. **"My dream job if money didn't matter"** / **"Mijn droombaan als geld geen rol speelde"**
+
+3. **"Random fact(s) about me"** / **"Willekeurig feit(en) over mij"**
+
+4. **"Most awkward moment of my life"** / **"Meest awkward moment van mijn leven"**
+
+## Profile Tips (From Breeze's Analysis)
+
+- Use humor and self-deprecation in answers
+- Include clear photos showing different aspects of your life
+- Write an honest, concise bio
+- Fill out multiple Q&A prompts to showcase personality
+- Since you can't chat before the date, make your profile informative and engaging
+
+## Dating Pools
+
+Users can join "dating pools" for better matching:
+- "Ready to settle down"
+- Outdoor adventure enthusiasts
+- (Other pools available in app)
+
+## Note
+
+The complete list of all Q&A prompts wasn't publicly available. To see all prompts, you would need to download the app and view them during profile setup. The prompts above were mentioned in Dutch reviews and user experiences.

Personal/Projects/Dating/Charisma myth/The Charisma Myth.md

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+## Introduction
+Marilyn Monroe could switch between Marilyn and Norma Jean Baker in an instance. Her magnetism could be switched on and off, just like that. The idea being charisma is a skill that can be learned not some innate gift.
+Charisma is learned behavior, a result of specific nonverbal behaviors. Steve jobs went for nerd to rock star CEO, same for Elon Musk.
+When meeting someone new we asses power and friendliness. Being charismatic means projecting warmth, power and presence.
+## Presence
+Presence cannot be faked. If your mind wonders the other will notice. Stay in the present moment use grounding if you have to.
+

Personal/Projects/Dating/Hinge/First Round Is On Me If - Examples.md

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+---
+created: 2025-10-23
+---
+
+# "First Round Is On Me If" - Prompt Examples & Analysis
+
+## What Makes This Prompt Work
+
+- Creates a playful challenge or condition
+- Sets a flirty, fun tone
+- Invites banter and conversation
+- Naturally leads to meeting up (implies a date)
+- Shows personality through what you value/challenge
+
+## Popular Example Categories
+
+### Feisty Challenges (Competitive/Playful)
+- "You beat me at darts"
+- "You can beat me in Super Smash Bros"
+- "You beat me in ping pong"
+- "You can hold eye contact with me for 5 whole minutes"
+- "You make me laugh with a joke YOU created"
+- "You can name more horror movie serial killers than me"
+- "Your cookies are better than mine"
+- "You race me to the bar and win"
+
+### Skill/Knowledge Tests
+- "You can name all the Friends characters in order of appearance"
+- "You've completed a Rubik's cube"
+- "You can speak more than three languages"
+- "You get every single Physics joke I make"
+- "You can recite the opening monologue of The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air"
+
+### Experience-Based
+- "You've been to more countries than I have"
+- "You've been skydiving"
+- "You've climbed a mountain over 14,000 feet"
+- "You've been to at least 10 national parks"
+
+### Sarcastic/Humorous (Self-Aware)
+- "You can explain crypto without sounding like a cult member"
+- "You've never ghosted someone (yeah, right)"
+- "You can go an entire date without checking your phone"
+- "You're an actual human being and not a bot"
+- "You manage not to creep me out at any point during our date"
+- "We drink milkshakes instead of alcohol because I have the taste buds of an 8-year-old"
+- "You use deodorant on our date"
+
+### Conversation/Connection-Based
+- "You give me quality conversation instead of awkwardly talking about our jobs"
+- "If you'll be my trivia partner — I'll cover science and the Kardashians, you take ancient history"
+- "We can finish an escape room together"
+- "You agree to be my karaoke duet partner"
+
+### Values/Personality-Based
+- "You value self-growth and have spent time in therapy"
+- "You can say 'Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious' in one try without messing up"
+
+### Absurdist (Intentionally Unusual)
+- "You've never had a cup of coffee"
+- "You've never owned a smartphone"
+- "You've never used Google Maps"
+- "We accidentally match outfits"
+- "You can snatch the cone out of Turkish ice cream vendors' hands"
+
+## Draft Space
+
+(Intentionally blank — we’re starting from scratch.)
+
+## Analysis: Your Style vs Popular Examples
+
+**Popular examples:**
+- Often silly/absurd challenges
+- Pop culture references
+- Safe, generic conditions
+
+**Your style should be:**
+- Signal values lightly (equals, direct, progressive) without heavy-handed filters here
+- Showcase humor + depth + activity (skiing) in short, memorable lines
+- Keep one or two playful challenges for easy banter
+
+**Best fit for you:** Dry-humor + niche-knowledge + ski variants
+- Playful but substantive
+- Natural conversation starters
+- Align with your "equals, no drama" philosophy
+
+## Strategic Considerations
+
+### This Prompt Works Well For You Because:
+✅ You can filter for shared humor
+✅ Can mention skiing (important compatibility)
+✅ Can signal progressive values
+✅ Shows confidence
+✅ Implies you're ready to meet (not endless texting)
+
+### Avoid These Approaches:
+❌ Generic bar games without a twist
+❌ Heavy filtering (kids/politics) in this specific prompt
+❌ Over-clever wordplay that sounds try-hard
+
+### Combination Strategy
+
+If using this prompt with "I'm convinced that", you get:
+- **"I'm convinced that"** = shows how you think (depth)
+- **"First round is on me if"** = shows what you value (filter) + playful tone
+
+This combo gives you substance + approachability.
+
+## Final Recommendation
+
+(Removed — we will create and select the prompt after calibration.)
+
+
+## 

Personal/Projects/Dating/Hinge/Hinge Prompts.md

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+---
+created: 2025-10-22 10:04
+updated: 2025-10-23 19:49
+---
+1. A boundary of mine is  
+2. A life goal of mine  
+3. A quick rant about  
+4. A random fact I love is  
+5. A shower thought I recently had  
+6. All I ask is that you  
+7. Apparently, my life's soundtrack is  
+8. Best travel story  
+9. Biggest risk I've taken  
+10. Change my mind about  
+11. Dating me is like  
+12. Do you agree or disagree that  
+13. Don't hate me if I  
+14. First round is on me if  
+15. Give me travel tips for  
+16. Green flags I look for  
+17. Guess the song  
+18. How to pronounce my name  
+19. I bet you can't  
+20. I feel most supported when  
+21. I geek out on  
+22. I get myself out of a funk by  
+23. I go crazy for  
+24. I hype myself up by  
+25. I know the best spot in town for  
+26. I recently discovered that  
+27. I want someone who  
+28. I wind down by  
+29. I wish more people knew  
+30. I won't shut up about  
+31. I'll brag about you to my friends if  
+32. I'll fall for you if  
+33. I'll give you the set up, you guess the punchline  
+34. I'll pick the topic if you start the conversation  
+35. I'm convinced that  
+36. I'm looking for  
+37. I'm weirdly attracted to  
+38. If loving this is wrong, I don't want to be right  
+39. Let's debate this topic  
+40. Let's make sure we're on the same page about  
+41. Most spontaneous thing I've done  
+42. My BFF's take on why you should date me  
+43. My Love Language is  
+44. My best Dad Joke  
+45. My best celebrity impression  
+46. My biggest date fail  
+47. My cry-in-the-car song is  
+48. My favorite line from a movie  
+49. My friends ask me for advice about  
+50. My greatest strength  
+51. My happy place  
+52. My last journal entry was about  
+53. My most controversial opinion is  
+54. My most irrational fear  
+55. My self-care routine is  
+56. My simple pleasures  
+57. My therapist would say I  
+58. Never have I ever  
+59. One thing I'll never do again  
+60. Proof I have musical talent  
+61. Saying "Hi!" in as many languages I know  
+62. Something that's non-negotiable for me is
+
+### General advise
+
+### Good prompts
+
+- Prompts that allow **self-disclosure of something unique** (originality)  
+    E.g., “A shower thought I recently had…”, “Two truths and a lie…”
+    
+- Prompts that encourage showing a **sense of purpose / values / goals**  
+    E.g., “This year I really want to…”, “My life goal is…”
+    
+- Prompts that clarify what you’re **looking for in a partner / relationship**  
+    E.g., “I want someone who…”, “If we match it’s because…”
+    
+- Prompts that invite **conversation / allow someone to respond** (less studied but implied)  
+    E.g., “Ask me about…” or “You should go out with me to save me from…”
+    
+- Prompts that balance personality (humour, wit) + substance (values/goal)  
+    Because originality and meaning both matter.
+### Bad propmps
+- Prompts purely about “fun facts” without linking to values may engage but may not filter for compatibility.
+    
+- Prompts that are too generic or cliché lack originality — and the originality study showed originality matters. [ResearchGate](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/364420243_Originality_in_online_dating_profile_texts_How_does_perceived_originality_affect_impression_formation_and_what_makes_a_text_original?utm_source=chatgpt.com)
+    
+- Prompts that devote _all_ text to self-promotion (hobbies, “Paragliding, yoga, indie bands…” as in the Berkeley study) but omit partner-preferences are less effective. [Haas News | Berkeley Haas](https://newsroom.haas.berkeley.edu/research/research-reveals-the-key-to-an-irresistible-online-dating-profile/?utm_source=chatgpt.com)
+    
+- Relying solely on text and ignoring visuals: pictures remain highly predictive of success. [Arno](https://arno.uvt.nl/show.cgi?fid=155361&utm_source=chatgpt.com)

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+What law would you enact if you where dicator for a day?

Personal/Projects/Dating/Hinge/I'm Convinced That - Examples.md

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+---
+created: 2025-10-23
+---
+
+# "I'm Convinced That" - Prompt Examples & Analysis
+
+## What Makes This Prompt Work
+
+- Shows how you think (critical/creative)
+- Specific, quirky details are memorable and conversation starters
+- Vague answers are forgettable
+- Balance humor with authenticity
+
+## Popular Example Categories
+
+### Humorous/Absurd
+- "Aliens are just waiting for the right moment to say hi"
+- "My dog is secretly plotting world domination"
+- "Sleep is just a time machine to breakfast"
+- "There's an alternate dimension where all my bobby pins go"
+- "Flies are evil. The way they rub their hands when they're about to bite you is so menacing"
+- "Glitter is the herpes of craft supplies"
+
+### Tech/Consumer Critiques (Sharp Observations)
+- "iPhones are a social experiment. There's no way people are buying the same phone, but for more money"
+- "My phone is listening to me, but only to serve me ads for things I've already bought"
+- "Fast food places give you less food if you're ordering online"
+- "Supreme caters to edgy teenagers whose sense of fashion includes bright colors"
+
+### Self-Aware/Meta (Witty)
+- "We're all just winging it, some are just better at hiding it"
+- "Adulthood is just childhood with bills"
+- "My sarcasm is a sign of intelligence"
+- "My apartment isn't messy, it's an obstacle course"
+- "My procrastination is just me living in the future"
+
+### Philosophical/Values-Based (Depth)
+- "Kindness is the most attractive quality"
+- "Vulnerability is strength, not weakness"
+- "The journey is more important than the destination"
+- "Courage is not the absence of fear, but acting in spite of it"
+- "Love is worth the risk, every single time"
+
+### Relationship Observations
+- "Falling in love is not for the weak because you have to get used to having all of your food eaten"
+
+### Food-Related
+- "Anyone who prefers tea over coffee low-key likes to torture themselves!"
+- "American 'cheese' is not even cheese because it tastes like biting into cardboard"
+
+### Clever Wordplay
+- "My cooking skills are so advanced, they look like complete disasters"
+- "My ability to lose things is actually a superpower of letting go"
+- "My tendency to trip over nothing is actually interpretive dance"
+
+## Your Personalized Drafts
+
+### Draft 1: Relationships (Depth + Insight)
+**"...the best relationships are between two people who don't *need* each other but actively *choose* each other. Also convinced most people ski wrong."**
+
+**Why it works:**
+- Shows your core value (independence)
+- Philosophical but not pretentious
+- Unexpected humor at the end (skiing)
+- Conversation starter on multiple levels
+
+### Draft 2: Intellectual (Sharp + Specific)
+**"...intellectual honesty is sexier than intelligence. You can be brilliant but dogmatic and we won't work. Sharp + open-minded > just smart."**
+
+**Why it works:**
+- Shows what you value (honesty over IQ)
+- Filters for your green flags
+- Confident and direct
+- Clear dealbreaker communication
+
+### Draft 3: Self-Aware (Witty + Relatable)
+**"...routine gets a bad rap. Give me someone who brings spontaneity to my structured life and I'll show you adventure with a breakfast schedule."**
+
+**Why it works:**
+- Self-aware about your personality
+- Shows what you're looking for (spontaneity)
+- Playful contradiction creates interest
+- Invites the "right" person to engage
+
+## Analysis: Your Style vs Popular Examples
+
+**Popular examples tend to be:**
+- Silly/absurd humor
+- Generic observations
+- Safe, relatable takes
+
+**Your style should be:**
+- Sharper and more substantive
+- Shows critical thinking + specific worldview
+- Witty but with edge
+- Filters for intellectual equals
+
+**Recommendation:** Use Draft 1 or Draft 3 - they balance wit with substance and communicate your values without being preachy.
+
+## Avoid These Mistakes
+
+❌ Too controversial (political hot takes)
+❌ Too generic ("pizza is the best food")
+❌ Too silly without substance ("aliens run the government")
+❌ Trying too hard to be deep ("we're all just stardust")
+
+✅ Specific observation + wit
+✅ Shows your thinking style
+✅ Invites conversation
+✅ Authentic to YOU

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+---
+created: 2025-10-23
+---
+
+# Recommended Hinge Prompts (Research-Backed)
+
+Based on analysis of effectiveness research, these prompts are categorized by their ability to show originality, values/goals, and partner preferences.
+
+## Tier 1: Best Overall
+**Shows values/goals + partner preferences**
+
+1. **I want someone who** - Clearly states partner preferences (proven most effective)
+2. **A life goal of mine** - Shows purpose and values
+3. **Green flags I look for** - Partner preferences + values combined
+4. **I'm looking for** - Direct about relationship expectations
+5. **I'll fall for you if** - Combines partner preferences with personality
+6. **Let's make sure we're on the same page about** - Clarifies compatibility upfront
+
+## Tier 2: Strong Conversation Starters
+**Originality + engagement**
+
+7. **A shower thought I recently had** - Shows unique thinking, very original
+8. **I recently discovered that** - Fresh, unique, conversation starter
+9. **I'm convinced that** - Shows personality + invites debate
+10. **Change my mind about** - Interactive, invites response
+11. **Let's debate this topic** - Direct conversation invitation
+12. **I won't shut up about** - Shows passion, very engaging
+
+## Tier 3: Personality + Substance Balance
+**Humor + depth**
+
+13. **I geek out on** - Shows passion and depth
+14. **My simple pleasures** - Reveals values through everyday moments
+15. **I know the best spot in town for** - Local knowledge + date idea
+16. **First round is on me if** - Playful + filters compatibility
+17. **I'll brag about you to my friends if** - Shows what you value in a partner
+
+## Recommended Profile Strategy
+
+Choose **3 prompts total**:
+
+1. **One from Tier 1** - Shows what you're looking for (compatibility filter)
+2. **One from Tier 2** - Shows originality and personality (engagement)
+3. **One from Tier 3** - Balances humor and substance (memorability)
+
+### Example Combinations
+
+**Combo A: Serious + Thoughtful + Fun**
+- I want someone who
+- A shower thought I recently had
+- My simple pleasures
+
+**Combo B: Clear + Passionate + Playful**
+- Green flags I look for
+- I won't shut up about
+- First round is on me if
+
+**Combo C: Compatible + Unique + Local**
+- Let's make sure we're on the same page about
+- I recently discovered that
+- I know the best spot in town for
+
+## Prompts to Avoid
+
+### Too Generic/Cliché
+- Never have I ever
+- My biggest date fail
+- Biggest risk I've taken
+
+### Pure Self-Promotion (No Partner Preference)
+- Proof I have musical talent
+- My best celebrity impression
+- Saying "Hi!" in as many languages I know
+
+### Just Fun Facts (Low Substance)
+- How to pronounce my name
+- My best Dad Joke
+- A random fact I love is
+
+### Potentially Negative Framing
+- Don't hate me if I
+- My cry-in-the-car song is
+- My therapist would say I
+- My most irrational fear
+
+## Why This Works
+
+According to the research cited in your notes:
+
+1. **Originality matters** - Unique, authentic responses stand out
+2. **Values/goals attract** - Showing purpose and direction is compelling
+3. **Partner preferences filter** - Being clear about what you want saves time
+4. **Balance is key** - Mix personality (humor) with substance (values)
+5. **Conversation hooks** - Prompts that invite responses get more engagement

Personal/Projects/Dating/Hinge/What I Want - Reflection.md

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+---
+created: 2025-10-23
+updated: 2025-10-23 22:01
+---
+
+# What I Want - Reflection Guide
+
+## Relationship Type & Goals
+
+### What are you looking for right now?
+- [ ] Casual dating / exploring
+- [x] Something that could become serious (exploring but taking it seriously)
+- [ ] Definitely looking for a long-term relationship
+- [ ] Not sure yet, open to seeing where it goes
+
+### Timeline & Commitment
+- Open to exploring but serious about finding something real (not casual)
+- Ideally in a committed relationship within 3 years
+- Life is stable - no major career changes planned
+- Travel is important but in reasonable chunks (max 1 month)
+
+**My thoughts:**
+Still exploring but pretty serious about it. Not looking for casual hookups. Want to find something that could develop into a real relationship within the next few years.
+
+
+## Values & Lifestyle Compatibility
+
+### What matters most to you in daily life?
+
+- **Work/Career:** Work 40hrs/week from home, value free time highly. Upper middle class financially, not very career-driven. Partner's career doesn't matter as long as it's not 80hrs/week and they put in effort.
+
+- **Social life:** More introverted with a sizeable friend group, but fine on my own. Don't need partner to match social style exactly - important that we don't have to do everything together.
+
+- **Health/Fitness:** Work out daily. Partner should be active but doesn't have to be extreme. Must be able to join annual skiing trips.
+
+- **Creativity/Hobbies:** Books, movies, TV series, podcasts, gaming, working out - all solitary activities. Would be nice if shared but not a dealbreaker. More important that she respects my hobbies and has her own passions.
+
+- **Adventure vs Routine:** Naturally routine-oriented (that's my default state), but would actually welcome someone who injects spontaneity into my life.
+
+- **Home life:** Mix of both - independent lives with flexibility for together time.
+
+**My thoughts:**
+Independence is key. Want someone with their own life who doesn't need to be joined at the hip. Value having lots of free time and personal space.
+
+
+## Communication & Emotional Needs
+
+### How do you need to feel in a relationship?
+- Need space when stressed - can work through things myself
+- Want support available but NOT someone proactively trying to help/solve everything
+- Someone who can be there for me without hovering
+- Offloading stress through conversation is nice, but on my terms
+
+### Communication style you appreciate:
+- Very direct communication - this is essential
+- Want a partner who is equally direct and honest
+- At 34, both will have independent lives - don't need constant check-ins
+- Natural flow works better than scheduled relationship talks
+
+**My thoughts:**
+Support without hovering. Be there when I need you but don't try to manage my problems. Direct, honest communication always.
+
+
+## Intellectual & Personal Growth
+
+### What kind of conversations energize you?
+Deep conversations with wit injected. The balance between substance and humor is important.
+
+### Personal growth & learning:
+- Partner MUST be intellectually curious
+- Intelligence becomes less critical if she's solid/expert in her own domain
+- We will challenge each other's thinking
+- MUST remain intellectually honest - no dogmatic beliefs
+- **Shared sense of humor is absolutely essential** - what would be the point otherwise?
+
+**My thoughts:**
+Sharp mind, witty banter, deep conversations. We can disagree and challenge each other but have to stay honest about it. Humor compatibility is non-negotiable.
+
+
+## Deal-Breakers & Non-Negotiables
+
+### Hard boundaries (actual deal-breakers):
+
+**Kids:** NO kids. Non-negotiable.
+
+**Location:** Relocating might be a problem depending on timelines. Netherlands is small so everything is close by, but still a consideration.
+
+**Religion/Beliefs:**
+- Very religious = dealbreaker
+- ANY dogmatic beliefs = dealbreaker
+- Must be intellectually honest
+
+**Politics/Values:**
+- I'm center-left, progressive
+- She can't be far-right or far-left
+- MUST be progressive (not conservative)
+
+**Financial:**
+- Upper middle class would be nice
+- But real requirement: has a job where she puts in effort
+- As long as somewhat responsible with money, don't care
+
+**Substance Use:**
+- Occasional hard drugs fine, even great (few times per year max)
+- ZERO smoking - absolute dealbreaker
+
+**Relationship Dynamics:**
+- No drama or backhanded behavior
+- Can't need me to "take charge"
+- Can't want princess treatment
+- MUST be equals in the relationship
+
+**Physical:**
+- Must take care of herself
+- Can't be overweight (doesn't have to be slim, but can't be fat)
+
+### Green Flags (what excites you):
+
+- **Sharp mind** - can build common understanding quickly
+- **The knowing look** - instant recognition that we "get" each other
+- **Direct communication** - no games, no hidden meanings
+- **Equals mentality** - neither of us leads, we're partners
+- **Spontaneous** - brings energy and spontaneity to my routine-oriented life
+- **Forward without being obnoxious** - confident and direct
+- **Witty** - can match my humor and banter
+
+
+## Physical & Chemistry
+
+### What creates attraction for you?
+
+**Personality traits:**
+- Spontaneous
+- Witty and sharp mind
+- Forward without being obnoxious
+- Takes care of herself (physically and otherwise)
+
+**Physical:**
+- Not overweight (doesn't have to be slim, but can't be fat)
+- Takes care of her body and health
+
+**Energy/Chemistry:**
+- That instant "knowing look" connection
+- Shared humor clicking immediately
+- Intellectual banter that flows naturally
+- Forward confidence
+
+**My thoughts:**
+Chemistry comes from mental sharpness, wit, and that instant recognition. Physical attraction requires someone who clearly takes care of themselves.
+
+
+## Practical Compatibility
+
+### Daily life compatibility:
+
+**Schedule:** Can be both morning person and night owl - flexible. Doesn't matter if we're on different schedules.
+
+**Cleanliness:** Not very clean/organized but want to be. Fine leaving things out if actively using them. Living alone for long time means can't really make a huge mess anyway.
+
+**Planning:** Usually fine with spontaneity. If I think there needs to be a plan, I'll make one. Flexible either way.
+
+**Money:** Live well within my means, and my means are pretty roomy. Don't care what partner does with their money as long as somewhat responsible. Effort in work matters more than income.
+
+**Free time:** Random free Saturday = likely doing separate activities. If we plan something together, that's great too. If it's a completely free day with no plans, we'll probably have already decided to do something together in advance.
+
+**My thoughts:**
+Very flexible on practical day-to-day stuff. Independent lives that overlap when it makes sense.
+
+
+## Reflection Summary
+
+### Top 5 things I'm looking for:
+1. **Sharp, witty mind with shared humor** - intellectually curious, can banter, we get each other's jokes
+2. **Independent but connected** - has her own life, doesn't need to do everything together, equals in the relationship
+3. **Direct and honest communication** - no games, no drama, straightforward
+4. **Progressive values** - center-left, not dogmatic, intellectually honest
+5. **Active and spontaneous** - takes care of herself, can join skiing trips, injects spontaneity into my routine
+
+### Top 3 deal-breakers:
+1. **Wants kids** - absolute no
+2. **Drama/games/traditional gender roles** - need equals, no princess treatment or needing me to take charge
+3. **Smoking** - zero tolerance (occasional other substances fine)
+
+### The vibe I want in a relationship:
+Two independent people who have their own lives, interests, and friends, but choose to build something together. We challenge each other intellectually while staying honest, share a sense of humor that just clicks, and give each other space when needed. No drama, no games - just two equals who genuinely enjoy each other's company and can be both deep and playful. She brings spontaneity to my routine; I bring stability to her energy.
+
+### What I can offer in return:
+- Financial stability and comfortable lifestyle
+- Lots of free time and flexibility (40hr remote work week)
+- Direct, honest communication - no guessing games
+- Intellectual curiosity and deep conversations with humor
+- Independence - won't be clingy or demanding
+- Active lifestyle (daily workouts, annual skiing)
+- Emotional support without hovering
+- Space and respect for her own interests and friendships
+- Progressive, open-minded worldview
+

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+created: 2025-10-23
+---
+
+# Your Best Hinge Prompts (Personalized)
+
+Based on your interview, here are the prompts that will work best for YOU and help attract the right person.
+
+## Recommended 3-Prompt Combination
+
+### Option A: Clear + Witty + Active
+
+1. **"I want someone who"** (Tier 1 - Partner preferences)
+2. **"I'm convinced that"** (Tier 2 - Conversation starter with wit)
+3. **"First round is on me if"** (Tier 3 - Playful compatibility filter)
+
+### Option B: Direct + Intellectual + Fun
+
+1. **"Green flags I look for"** (Tier 1 - Values + preferences)
+2. **"I won't shut up about"** (Tier 2 - Shows passion)
+3. **"I know the best spot in town for"** (Tier 3 - Date idea)
+
+### Option C: Compatible + Unique + Forward
+
+1. **"Let's make sure we're on the same page about"** (Tier 1 - Filters early)
+2. **"A shower thought I recently had"** (Tier 2 - Original/witty)
+3. **"I'll fall for you if"** (Tier 3 - Shows what you value)
+
+---
+
+## Draft Answers (Based on What You Want)
+
+### "I want someone who"
+
+**Draft 1 (Direct about independence):**
+"...has her own life and doesn't need to do everything together. We should be two independent people who choose to build something, not two halves trying to make a whole."
+
+**Draft 2 (Humor focus):**
+"...gets my jokes without explanation. What's the point otherwise? Also: can ski, won't try to fix all my problems, and thinks traditional gender roles are bullshit."
+
+**Draft 3 (Values-focused):**
+"...challenges my thinking but stays intellectually honest. Progressive, direct communicator, independent. Bonus points if you bring spontaneity to my very routine life."
+
+---
+
+### "Green flags I look for"
+
+**Draft 1 (Sharp mind focus):**
+"That instant 'knowing look' when we get each other without words. Sharp wit, direct communication, and the ability to debate without getting dogmatic. Also: takes care of herself and can handle a ski trip."
+
+**Draft 2 (Equals mentality):**
+"Someone with their own passions and friend group who doesn't need me to take charge or play princess. We're equals or we're nothing. Also critical: shared sense of humor and progressive values."
+
+**Draft 3 (Balanced):**
+"Intellectual curiosity, direct communication, and that rare combo of depth and humor. Someone who's comfortable being independent but also knows when to be there. No drama, no games."
+
+---
+
+### "Let's make sure we're on the same page about"
+
+**Draft 1 (No kids - direct):**
+"No kids. Also: progressive politics, we're equals in this relationship, and occasional psychedelics > any smoking ever."
+
+**Draft 2 (Softer but clear):**
+"Building independent lives together rather than codependent ones. Also: childfree, progressive values, and direct communication > playing games."
+
+**Draft 3 (Comprehensive):**
+"Being partners not caretakers, no kids, progressive mindsets, and that skiing trips are non-negotiable. Oh, and shared humor isn't optional - it's essential."
+
+---
+
+### "I'm convinced that"
+
+**Draft 1 (Humor about independence):**
+"...the best relationships are between two people who don't *need* each other but actively *choose* each other. Also convinced most people ski wrong."
+
+**Draft 2 (Intellectual):**
+"...intellectual honesty is sexier than intelligence. You can be brilliant but dogmatic and we won't work. Sharp + open-minded > just smart."
+
+**Draft 3 (Playful):**
+"...routine gets a bad rap. Give me someone who brings spontaneity to my structured life and I'll show you adventure with a breakfast schedule."
+
+---
+
+### "First round is on me if"
+
+(Cleared — we will craft a new, single perfect line from scratch.)
+
+---
+
+### "I won't shut up about"
+
+**Draft 1 (Multi-interest):**
+"The books I'm reading, why most people's workout routines make no sense, and which ski resorts are actually worth it. Fair warning: I get passionate."
+
+**Draft 2 (Specific passion):**
+"Whatever I'm currently obsessed with - could be a podcast series, training methodology, or why some common belief is completely wrong. I geek out hard."
+
+**Draft 3 (Meta/witty):**
+"The fact that we both need independent lives to make this work. Also: the perfect espresso, strength training progressions, and obscure film photography techniques."
+
+---
+
+### "I know the best spot in town for"
+
+**Draft 1 (Active lifestyle):**
+"A proper workout that doesn't involve boutique fitness nonsense. Also: coffee that's actually good and conversations that go deeper than small talk."
+
+**Draft 2 (Dutch-specific if applicable):**
+"[Insert actual favorite spot] - but only sharing if you promise not to need constant plans. Sometimes the best nights are the spontaneous ones."
+
+**Draft 3 (Playful):**
+"Deep conversations over good coffee. Or mediocre coffee. Honestly the conversation matters more, but why settle?"
+
+---
+
+### "A shower thought I recently had"
+
+**Draft 1 (Relationships):**
+"People say 'opposites attract' but really it's 'independently whole people who complement each other attract.' Needing someone is a red flag, choosing them is the point."
+
+**Draft 2 (Witty observation):**
+"Most people confuse being busy with being productive, and confuse codependency with love. Related thoughts."
+
+**Draft 3 (Original take):**
+"The best relationships are two people with full lives who make space for each other, not two people filling each other's gaps. Also: why do ski resorts keep [specific pet peeve]?"
+
+---
+
+### "I'll fall for you if"
+
+**Draft 1 (Comprehensive):**
+"...we can challenge each other's thinking without it becoming a thing, your idea of fun includes both deep conversations and spontaneous adventures, and that 'knowing look' just clicks."
+
+**Draft 2 (Humor-focused):**
+"...our humor syncs up instantly, you have your own life and passions, and you think 'I need space' is a sign of health not a problem. Bonus: can ski."
+
+**Draft 3 (Direct):**
+"...you're sharp, direct, progressive, and treat partnership as equals not roles. Also if you bring spontaneity to my routine-heavy life while respecting that I actually like structure."
+
+---
+
+## Why These Work For You
+
+**They filter for:**
+- ✅ Progressive, childfree values
+- ✅ Independence and equality
+- ✅ Sharp mind and shared humor
+- ✅ Direct communication style
+- ✅ Active lifestyle compatibility
+- ✅ No traditional gender roles
+- ✅ Intellectual curiosity
+
+**They communicate:**
+- 🎯 You know what you want
+- 🎯 You value depth + wit
+- 🎯 You're looking for equals not dependents
+- 🎯 You have your life together
+- 🎯 You're direct and authentic
+
+**They repel:**
+- ❌ People who want kids
+- ❌ Drama seekers
+- ❌ Traditional gender role believers
+- ❌ Codependent types
+- ❌ Conservative values
+- ❌ People who can't handle direct communication
+
+---
+
+## Next Steps
+
+1. Pick one of the 3-prompt combinations (A, B, or C)
+2. Choose which draft answer resonates most for each prompt (or mix elements)
+3. Personalize with your actual voice and specific details
+4. Test and iterate based on who matches with you
+
+Remember: The research shows originality + values + partner preferences = success. These prompts nail all three.

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+created: 2025-10-22 10:04
+updated: 2025-10-23 19:49
+---
+1. A boundary of mine is  
+2. A life goal of mine  
+3. A quick rant about  
+4. A random fact I love is  
+5. A shower thought I recently had  
+6. All I ask is that you  
+7. Apparently, my life's soundtrack is  
+8. Best travel story  
+9. Biggest risk I've taken  
+10. Change my mind about  
+11. Dating me is like  
+12. Do you agree or disagree that  
+13. Don't hate me if I  
+14. First round is on me if  
+15. Give me travel tips for  
+16. Green flags I look for  
+17. Guess the song  
+18. How to pronounce my name  
+19. I bet you can't  
+20. I feel most supported when  
+21. I geek out on  
+22. I get myself out of a funk by  
+23. I go crazy for  
+24. I hype myself up by  
+25. I know the best spot in town for  
+26. I recently discovered that  
+27. I want someone who  
+28. I wind down by  
+29. I wish more people knew  
+30. I won't shut up about  
+31. I'll brag about you to my friends if  
+32. I'll fall for you if  
+33. I'll give you the set up, you guess the punchline  
+34. I'll pick the topic if you start the conversation  
+35. I'm convinced that  
+36. I'm looking for  
+37. I'm weirdly attracted to  
+38. If loving this is wrong, I don't want to be right  
+39. Let's debate this topic  
+40. Let's make sure we're on the same page about  
+41. Most spontaneous thing I've done  
+42. My BFF's take on why you should date me  
+43. My Love Language is  
+44. My best Dad Joke  
+45. My best celebrity impression  
+46. My biggest date fail  
+47. My cry-in-the-car song is  
+48. My favorite line from a movie  
+49. My friends ask me for advice about  
+50. My greatest strength  
+51. My happy place  
+52. My last journal entry was about  
+53. My most controversial opinion is  
+54. My most irrational fear  
+55. My self-care routine is  
+56. My simple pleasures  
+57. My therapist would say I  
+58. Never have I ever  
+59. One thing I'll never do again  
+60. Proof I have musical talent  
+61. Saying "Hi!" in as many languages I know  
+62. Something that's non-negotiable for me is
+
+### General advise
+
+### Good prompts
+
+- Prompts that allow **self-disclosure of something unique** (originality)  
+    E.g., “A shower thought I recently had…”, “Two truths and a lie…”
+    
+- Prompts that encourage showing a **sense of purpose / values / goals**  
+    E.g., “This year I really want to…”, “My life goal is…”
+    
+- Prompts that clarify what you’re **looking for in a partner / relationship**  
+    E.g., “I want someone who…”, “If we match it’s because…”
+    
+- Prompts that invite **conversation / allow someone to respond** (less studied but implied)  
+    E.g., “Ask me about…” or “You should go out with me to save me from…”
+    
+- Prompts that balance personality (humour, wit) + substance (values/goal)  
+    Because originality and meaning both matter.
+### Bad propmps
+- Prompts purely about “fun facts” without linking to values may engage but may not filter for compatibility.
+    
+- Prompts that are too generic or cliché lack originality — and the originality study showed originality matters. [ResearchGate](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/364420243_Originality_in_online_dating_profile_texts_How_does_perceived_originality_affect_impression_formation_and_what_makes_a_text_original?utm_source=chatgpt.com)
+    
+- Prompts that devote _all_ text to self-promotion (hobbies, “Paragliding, yoga, indie bands…” as in the Berkeley study) but omit partner-preferences are less effective. [Haas News | Berkeley Haas](https://newsroom.haas.berkeley.edu/research/research-reveals-the-key-to-an-irresistible-online-dating-profile/?utm_source=chatgpt.com)
+    
+- Relying solely on text and ignoring visuals: pictures remain highly predictive of success. [Arno](https://arno.uvt.nl/show.cgi?fid=155361&utm_source=chatgpt.com)
+
+## anders Is liked
+- wat is je lievelings gang in de Albert Heijn?