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+# Recommended Hinge Prompts (Research-Backed)
+
+Based on analysis of effectiveness research, these prompts are categorized by their ability to show originality, values/goals, and partner preferences.
+
+## Tier 1: Best Overall
+**Shows values/goals + partner preferences**
+
+1. **I want someone who** - Clearly states partner preferences (proven most effective)
+2. **A life goal of mine** - Shows purpose and values
+3. **Green flags I look for** - Partner preferences + values combined
+4. **I'm looking for** - Direct about relationship expectations
+5. **I'll fall for you if** - Combines partner preferences with personality
+6. **Let's make sure we're on the same page about** - Clarifies compatibility upfront
+
+## Tier 2: Strong Conversation Starters
+**Originality + engagement**
+
+7. **A shower thought I recently had** - Shows unique thinking, very original
+8. **I recently discovered that** - Fresh, unique, conversation starter
+9. **I'm convinced that** - Shows personality + invites debate
+10. **Change my mind about** - Interactive, invites response
+11. **Let's debate this topic** - Direct conversation invitation
+12. **I won't shut up about** - Shows passion, very engaging
+
+## Tier 3: Personality + Substance Balance
+**Humor + depth**
+
+13. **I geek out on** - Shows passion and depth
+14. **My simple pleasures** - Reveals values through everyday moments
+15. **I know the best spot in town for** - Local knowledge + date idea
+16. **First round is on me if** - Playful + filters compatibility
+17. **I'll brag about you to my friends if** - Shows what you value in a partner
+
+## Recommended Profile Strategy
+
+Choose **3 prompts total**:
+
+1. **One from Tier 1** - Shows what you're looking for (compatibility filter)
+2. **One from Tier 2** - Shows originality and personality (engagement)
+3. **One from Tier 3** - Balances humor and substance (memorability)
+
+### Example Combinations
+
+**Combo A: Serious + Thoughtful + Fun**
+- I want someone who
+- A shower thought I recently had
+- My simple pleasures
+
+**Combo B: Clear + Passionate + Playful**
+- Green flags I look for
+- I won't shut up about
+- First round is on me if
+
+**Combo C: Compatible + Unique + Local**
+- Let's make sure we're on the same page about
+- I recently discovered that
+- I know the best spot in town for
+
+## Prompts to Avoid
+
+### Too Generic/Cliché
+- Never have I ever
+- My biggest date fail
+- Biggest risk I've taken
+
+### Pure Self-Promotion (No Partner Preference)
+- Proof I have musical talent
+- My best celebrity impression
+- Saying "Hi!" in as many languages I know
+
+### Just Fun Facts (Low Substance)
+- How to pronounce my name
+- My best Dad Joke
+- A random fact I love is
+
+### Potentially Negative Framing
+- Don't hate me if I
+- My cry-in-the-car song is
+- My therapist would say I
+- My most irrational fear
+
+## Why This Works
+
+According to the research cited in your notes:
+
+1. **Originality matters** - Unique, authentic responses stand out
+2. **Values/goals attract** - Showing purpose and direction is compelling
+3. **Partner preferences filter** - Being clear about what you want saves time
+4. **Balance is key** - Mix personality (humor) with substance (values)
+5. **Conversation hooks** - Prompts that invite responses get more engagement